Tuesday, September 27, 2011
You know the ones (maybe you even are one)-- the ones who, when asked in passing, "How are you?" answer with some kind of weird daily-affirmation jive about how great or "better and better" they are. The first time or two that I got replies like this I liked it--"Hey, that's kinda clever-- that's a nice kind of magical spell you're working for yourself. I ought to try that." You create your own reality, and all that. But, it has happened enough times that I'm starting to wonder if it's some kind of cult thing, or is it Prozac, or what? I'm starting to think that the truth of it is quite the opposite of what they say: They really mean, "My life is horrible, and I'm depressed about it."
Of course, even if these people are trying to compensate for some kind of inner misery, and they aren't being honest with their answer, it's probably better to keep things positive, isn't it? Why spread your pain to others? No one want to hang around with Gloomy Gus.
Take me for example. I'm quite in favor of not sticking to the social script-- it's good to keep things a little weird, it reminds me that I'm alive. (Or it makes me think I'm "unique"-- but that should be the topic of another post altogether.) When I get asked in passing how I'm doing, I usually try to give an honest assessment (because I'm a bit of a bore). If I'm feeling good, then I say that I'm feeling good, and if I'm tired, then I say that I'm tired. People probably don't want an honest assessment, though-- mostly people want to hear that I'm fine, thanks for asking, see you later.
Oh well. Just thought I'd point it out and make fun of it.